The language that we use has a profound effect on our minds and the intensity of our emotions.
Words can make us (and others) feel positive, negative, happy and sad.
This is important because how we feel controls how we act.
Words have the power to inspire millions of people, think Winston Churchill inspiring courage and confidence into British Troops in World War II or Martin Luther Kings 'I have a dream' speech.
Great people have used great words to inspire people to subscribe to their causes by stoking their emotions.
So what about the words that we use on day to day basis? How do they stoke our emotions and our subsequent actions?
Let me say it again: How we feel controls how we act, therefore the words we choose to use (which intensify our emotions) are really important.
Most of us use words unconsciously throughout the day with little or no thought going into what we say, but if you are reading this and can understand the power of your words, it might be wise to choose them more carefully from now on.
For example, if you really 'hate' doing something (let's say you 'hate' exercise) but you really want to get fit, exercise is something that you know you need to do. Every time you verbalise that you 'hate' to do it, you intensify your hate even more. If you are speaking that out loud to someone else then you are also likely to intensify that emotion in them as well, even if they may not have had that emotion to begin with, it is likely that they will also verbalise their hate back to you! When they say it back to you it intensifies even more and is like a vicious circle, making you hate exercise more and more!
We are all, or have all been guilty of this, be it exercise, healthy eating, our job, a person, or doing the dishes - so don't feel bad about it, just remember that words are important and choose a better word next time.
So what is a better word than hate? How about 'I prefer to do x instead' If you replaced hate with a preference of something else you will LOWER the intensity of emotion that you are feeling and you are less likely to envoke that emotion in anybody else.
You could even say to yourself that you LOVE to do exercise (even if it is not true) then you will eventually turn into one of those strange people who enjoy exercise and go to the gym on a regular basis and like to stay strong and healthy.
Consciously changing the words we use acts as a 'Pattern Interrupt' in our unconscious mind, we insert an unusual word or phrase in the place of using an unconscious one. This unusual word interrupts our thought process before we can self-sabotage ourselves!
Here is another example for you, 'I am starving' - this is definitely one I use! This intensifies the feeling of hunger and can lead to overeating or opting for something 'quick and easy'. If instead, you said that you 'felt a little peckish' maybe that would not intensify the feeling of hunger so much and allow you to control your eating!
There are many examples of words that we use to subconsciously intensify how we are feeling, here are some more commonly used ones and their replacements.
Angry = Disenchanted
Depressed = Challenged
Pissed off = Slightly annoyed
Failure = Learning
Terrible = Different
On the flip side think about some BETTER words you could use to enhance your mood or positive emotions, such as
Great = Phenominal
OK = Perfect
Determined = Unstoppable
Terrific = Ecstatic
I am sure that you might be able to identify with some of these examples, if you have any that you use yourself and need a replacement for then please comment below and I would love to give you some ideas about how to create your own pattern interrupt!
For more on this subject read 'Awaken the Giant Within' By Tony Robbins Chapter 9 'The Vocabulary Of Ultimate Success'
Coach Ben Price